Out of Courtesy

There’s no such thing as one size fits all for the whole women clan. That’s basically true. Even truer when the ones involved are Christians. But allow me to put a little clarity and streamlining for a certain question that inspired me to actually write this article: “Until when do women play hard to get?”

First of all, I commend the confidence to have such kind of perception instead of plainly accepting the rejection. It goes without saying that one should avoid being clingy at all costs if you're trying to play hard to get. The dates following the first might have gone fantastically well, but that doesn't mean one should start calling or texting the other every hour to find out where the person is and when they can hang out again. Even if the person’s being into you is pretty obvious, you keep distance, and let him see that you are your own person with your own interests and schedule. That you have life without the other. All these and more lead to refining the very purpose why one keeps exerting effort while the other never says no and just accepts things one piece at a time.

Does the clue seem visible yet? A woman in a right state of mind will entertain only a man in whom she is interested. That playing-hard-to-get should never be confused with just taking all the efforts in out of courtesy.  Take a pause and reread the phrase: out of courtesy. Yes. If you’re good friends with the wooer, there’s no such graceful way to turn down the person. When all you can see is to be a sister to him, to respect him the way you believe he ought to be respected outside the frame of the love that is being offered – is it not way too difficult to say no?

If you’re brave enough to break your silence and give all the efforts possible, be also man enough to respect what the other can only give back to you at the moment. If there’s any relationship to start with, God will work in the heart of the person, in the perfect place, at the most perfect time and with the most perfect word to say.

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