special non-romantic relationship

We are a family of four girls. I grew up thankful of the birthright I gained over my sisters but as years go by, after meeting people after people, I felt the need of having a brother — someone who can bravely face ugly hoodlums to protect me; someone who can give pieces of advice when I am brokenhearted; someone who can lend me a shoulder when I’m down; someone whom I can cry on when the going gets tough. I don’t have one and lost the chance to call anyone my own brother. And that can actually explain why I value most my friendship with my male buddies.

Sadly (or surprisingly rather), many look at this platonic closeness as something beyond the “it’s just it.” While others see it as a potential “thing” between me and a male friend, I deem things falling under a special non-romantic relationship. Maybe we can go out individually dating other persons and catch up another time with each other, telling our own story of life without getting jealous at all. He must be a whole lot admirable and I must be equally girlfriend-material but it doesn't simply lead there – yes no more than friends, honest. I admit hurting whenever he confides to me his own heartaches but I never dreamed of replacing that person in his heart. I stood by him because that’s the right thing to do for a friend who needs me to be with him. I love the very way we care for each other but never in any passionate sense. I care, a friendly care. And I know it goes the same way for him.

Ours proves the existence of a special relationship even without romance. We respect. We care. We value each other… all because we both want to build this friendship and make it last longer than many broken relationships around us.

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